I know all this may have not been DB smart, but its something I felt I had to do
Any stories about successful reconcilliations from a situation this bad?
Look about this description of your wife.
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Very non-verbal. Avoids conflict at all costs. Loves the silent treatment and withholding affections as means of control.
What part do you play in this? Maybe you need to 180 whatever your part in this is. She wants to control you, you let her or not?
Control is a sign of depression. And it takes two, a controller and a controlee. I already know she is the controller. All you can do is to shut down your side of it.
