Fwiw,... I said the first time that I would have to have an affair with my H to get him back... then go dark. (let him miss me). And it worked. If they're willing, just think ... they're screwing around on the person they're screwing around with. Mind boggling LOL.
This time is really no diff. After my "bust" of his lies and my invasion of the parasite OW's house... He started flirting with me Thursday, we cuddled and hugged, and we played last night. He's leaning on me. Talking about lawyers, and scheming (even if it's just talk right now) on how to get daughter. I'm having an "affair" with him again. I'll pull the plug to go dark if needed.
You can utilize the same strategy if he bites. Again, NOT for the weak at heart. We as women seem to wonder how the compartmentalize sex/love differently than we do. They DO link them... it just takes longer.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.