Just curious of what people think of the idea...assuming the STD angle is well-covered by not ML, using protection, and likely having a low risk anyway. (H says he uses protection but I know you can't trust that)

Thanks for your support. Not sure I'm doing that well...I tend to obsess and my H's inability to see what he's doing to me and our family is so painful. Oddly, I'm almost getting to the point where I am more angry at him for leaving me alone with the kids, my stressful job, and all of this emotional pain for the last 4 months than I am mad about his affair.

But, H is starting to say this is very hard on him too...so I need to take a deep breath and be positive. From everything I read, it does seem like the H has to trust they could come back to a M that would be better than before.


M 44, H 46
D11, D9, D5
Married 12 years
PA confirmed 9/2011
I filed 3/2012
H moved out 7/2012