How 2 balance detaching & improving communication?

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Sayitaintso

I am in a similar position But the bomb was only dropped 3 weeks ago and I have been given until end of jan to find somewhere to live.
Luckily I only begged, pleaded etc for about 3 days. I then had to work away for 3 days which nearly blew my mind, being so far from home.I didn't know what to do to save my marriage until a fortuitous ride in a taxi with a female taxi driver. I gave her the whole story in about 20 mins, and she offered the first useful advice. I then got on the internet in the hotel and spent the next 3 evenings researching. I watched MWD Youtube videos and by the time I was home again, I had a plan!

The hardest part of all this is 'How to detach but keep the good commmunication' and how to keep yourself from going insane.

Analysing every conversation, body language, smile and interaction is driving me nuts. My W. is a really nice person who from the off wanted us after the D to be respectful to each other and co-operative and 'not to let it affect the boys'. So sometimes I see her smiles, laughs, and general openness (since the Bomb) as her accepting that this is how it will be from now on. Does she think that she is happy now 1)Because she unburdened herself by releasing the bomb or 2) Because I have changed.

Well I guess it is a combination of both.... and I need to convince her that our new found good R can grow and grow.

Also in my job I am away from home a lot midweek, sometimes 4 nights. Its really tough, especially not Texting, emailing or calling. sorry to go on about my situation but I guess that is what this forum is for....support and unburdening.... Hang in there!!