DBing against OW...?????

[imthemom]

I need some advice on this whole "going dark" thing...
first..If im going completley dark, which is what I think i need to do, how do I handle the pick ups..last night H was here as we pulled up and as I got out of the truck I just said "hey whats up" and went in the house..should i make sure we dont even run into each other at these times or just say hello and leave it at that? I still get alot of anxiety when i have to see him and im afraid he can tell...its hard to make eye contact and im sure i come off as defensive even just saying hello....

also..S14 started texting me right away that his D was being being mad and grouchy already. I assumed it was because he had to wait for us so I sent a text saying "sorry you had to wait, dont be mad at S it was my fault"..he answered no problem at all and then started with the funny chat he always does but I did not respond. this is a on going thing with S14 whenever he is with H he text me the whole time. Im thinking i should not respond at all and leave them to there time. and Im thinking i shouldnt have text H about being mad...let them work it out amongst thereselves...
Im going on the thought that I should have NO CONTACT with him unless it involves finances or S14 and even then, only if its an emergency...does that sound right?? and from now on in the Co parenting sessions if anything at all comes up other then S14 im going to change the subject back to S14, and if that doesnt work im going to sit and say nothing. she is taking the approach that we need to work on our R so that we can be better co parents..I think at this point it is making it worse.

i would love some advice or examples of how others have done the going dark, last resort method...Im feeling so much stronger lately so I know im ready to get seriouse about this. went to christmas party at my gym last night and was a lot of fun, it really the first time ive been out since discovering the OW and everyone was happy to see me. Today Im going to my S21 special olympics bowling tournament and then busy day of cleaning and getting xmas decorations out.