H took my son to buy me a gift

[MrBond]

I believe it was also God, or at least His son that said "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

God gave everyone free will. He really doesn't care what we listen to as long as nothing comes out of it. Do you think it was the music that lead your H to have OW?

Hmmm something tells me no. I know many people who listen to that type of stuff and they are some of the most giving people I know. It's not the music that makes bad people.

You just don't want to admit that you don't want to change. Okay, switching gears. What if your son started listening to that type of stuff? Would you condemn him too?

Sounds like you would.

Don't blame outside influences on your H's behavior. You blame the music, the wiles of the OW, etc. And you complain about how miserable you are, etc.

The reason why your "DBing efforts" haven't worked is because you haven't changed the one thing that needed to...you.