I was thinking about what you are facing in the next few weeks. Do you have a plan for how you are going to keep your cool? In my own life I try to plan ahead and have the words practised in my head. Of course we can never imagine the scenarios that will actually come up. I also have been trying to take two long slow breaths (yoga style) everytime I am blindsided by something. And thinking before I talk. And sometimes actually walking into the other room and saying excuse me a minute, I'll be right back.
Everyone says this is a rollercoaster, and boy is it! I hope you can remember that! It is like Disney: rollercoasters and trains. Just remember to skip the fireworks!
About your question above about the chaplain: Your wife may or may not listen to him. She might not be listening to anyone right now. I forced my husband to go to one counseling session with me. It wasn't very productive. I believe you have stated that you will go to MC. I think until she is ready to go it won't get you much. Just DB your best and see what happens!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
