I wonder if ow#2 wants to pay all other women back for whatever her H did by going after married men. I have a sister who likes to go after married men. But, with her, she likes the challenge of taking someone else's man.
When I stopped defending myself when H would say something, and started the "you're right" and "I'm sorry you feel that way", he seemed to respond better to me. So, I let him be right all the time, even when he wasn't. You're right about the listening, he wants to be heard.
He also used to make random trips to the store at night. Funny how suddenly some things became absolute necessities at 9 pm. Maybe your H is starting to come back, because he is doing stuff my H started doing, too.
Hopefully you can figure out how to get back to the C soon, maybe before Christmas. I wonder how the counselor will handle the "serial cheater" thing. Is it the same as when they cheat once as far as we know? Is it easier or harder? I've never read anything on that.
