I'm also new here. I wanted to say I just read your thread. Sorry to hear about your problems. I'm just figuring out the whole "Wow I need to be in this for the long haul part."

I also wish for a quick fix. Keep with the DB/DR program and listen to what 25yearmlc said about what you resist, persists!

I am also a veteran. And a veteran of a life of being a military brat and military spouse. You probably have a strong, independant wife. Detach as best as you can when you get back. Maybe she is afraid you will come back and she won't have that freedom she has been enjoying. Step back into your share of chores around the house, but don't just take over everything. Let her see the new you!

My view, and just my opinion!

Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32
D final 9/12
Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!