Need HOPE & Advice

[PERSEVERANCE]

Opinions? Hopefully this wasn’t a mistake—
Just got off of the phone with my Chaplain from my home state. I’ve been corresponding with him via email & phone since W dropped the D word.
When my W first dropped the D bomb on me, I was devastated, at an all-time emotional low in my life. She was worried about me…. I was a mental wreck, combined with the fact I’m in Afghanistan, a combat area & easy access to weapons – she was worried that I would hurt myself. Actually- how worried could she be…she sends a “Dear John” email after 17 years of marriage, and can’t wait until I get home in a couple of weeks to discuss our R?! She contacted our local Chaplain & asked him to check on me.
Shortly after the D bomb email, I discovered this site, some great literature & talked to a few close friends…. Learned about 180s & GAL. I’m determined to rise from the ashes like a phoenix and become a better ME. Still devastated, but I have HOPE. Hope for a better me, to be a better Dad & God willing- a better husband for my W.
The Chaplain can’t understand why my W won’t consider MC & why she seems in such a rush to walk away from a 17 year M ( most of it has been beautiful—just the last 2-3 yrs have been tough). I told him that I’m in no position to argue with her, reason or plead, as it will just make her dig her heals in deeper & run from me faster. All I can do is try to be understanding & work on ME…and hopefully things work out eventually.
He is supposed to call my W, just to let her know that I’m doing fine, and that I’m actually adjusting to the situation… that this was a catalyst to improve myself. I told him that if he wants to know why she won’t consider MC, maybe he should ask… & maybe he should ask her why she is in a rush to dissolve a 17 yr marriage. He wants to know—maybe she will give him an answer, maybe he will convince her to agree to see him for MC before bailing on the M. These questions are coming from him…not me… Is this a bad move? Opinions?
Fyi- first flight outa here is in a few hours…. Home by Christmas I hope!!! Can’t wait- although my stomach is in a knot thinking about the sitch.