I am not calling you controlling or a controller. Honest. (sad that I actually have to say: honest )
I bring up questions, because to me? That is the best way to offer advice in many cases.
Advice, is more like direction. Go here, do this, click this button.
Questions?
The ones that make you think? Those I like, because if you start to think...then anything you come up with, is all yours. And you're more likely to make changes based upon your own conclusions or experience.
One other thing...
Questions or comments that sting around this place; they sometimes are designed to, but with purpose.
Here is an example. Please note: I do not want an answer to the hypothetical question below:
"Are you fat?"
If your not fat; or less likely but infinately cooler, you are but are awesomely comfortable with your own self image.
That question is NOT going to bother you. It will not sting and you'll pass it over without a care in the world.
If you are fat, and it bothers you?
That simple question is going to upset you, and...you'll be uspet with the person asking it.
The questions that end up stinging? Find the reason they sting. Fix the reasons they sting. In the above question. To fix it? Lose weight, or get comfortable with your self.
As for the questions/ comments that make you think, without any sting...the answers you come up with? You own. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
