Just talked to my W on the phone. Had to contact her about the end of our cell phone contract. We took care of business, about bank accounts and such, then talked about how things are going.
She is having a very hard time motivating herself to find a job. She is very lonely. She misses her friends terribly. She does not want to lean on me for emotional support, and says she needs to find someone else to fill that role. Her old friend who lives 3 hours away has been a major source of emotional support, but my W is concerned about leaning on her too hard. She has no plans for the holidays. Says it is getting pretty dark where she is living.
She is clearly getting depressed again as time goes by. She will now be by herself for the next several weeks. Our D proceedings are continuing, which she find hard, and she finds it awkward to talk to me because of the ongoing separation. I need to send her information about the financial separation, and I don't know how she will take that.
I am very concerned for her, and do not know what to do. I asked her if she would tell me if she was not doing OK, and she said she would if things got really bad. That also confirms to me that her statements of "everything is good here, I am doing alright" are not really true.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
