Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

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Thanks MZ. I read some of XYZ's stuff and sounds like he had some good progress...I hope he is okay.

I feel like my sitch is kind of unique from the perspective of my H being so "confused". He doesn't want to move out, but he doesn't want to give up his A. I think it may be an internal struggle for him between his responsible, family life and his new, exciting life. I think the power of LRT and maybe eventually going dimmer is that it will hopefully allow him to think through things.

If he decides his A is worth shattering our family over and he's not willing to try to work on his M...I'm increasingly okay with that. I deserve someone who will make me a priority and be willing to have a healthy, balanced relationship with me. I think believing this is key for me to be strong and hopefully give off the kind of attitude that makes me more attractive to him.

We are in a very "awkward" place right now given his vacation next weekend with OW. I just need to ignore it and hope he feels increasing guilt about it. But, hard to know how much he can understand what he's doing.