DBing against OW...?????

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I wouldn't beat yourself up too much over a back slide. I have "back slid" several times and it isn't the end of the world. If your H is lost in the fog, I swear...they likely don't even remember the conversation the next day. I think if you get back on track, you are fine. My H and I have continued to make progress "despite" my R talks with him. I agree though, the R talks don't lead to much and they often hurt more than they help.

I also think that NEVER talking about issues or the A is impossible and if I was the cheating spouse...I would wonder if you cared or had the dignity to stand up for yourself. Hopefully you can get into some more productive counseling sessions at some point. I agree with Abbey though..your H sounds like he's impossible to deal with right now.

Hang in there and try to focus on yourself and what you can control. I know that's where I am and it's really hard but we have to do it.