DBing against OW...?????

[imthemom]

No Mish..he is giving me exactly what the law says he should in child support but will have to give more for spousal support and he is ticked about that. he doesnt want to have to give me anything.

Im ticked at myself....after session I came home and had so many questions. i ended up calling him and we got into an R conversation. Its the first one we have had since I caught him with other woman but all the same I have worked hard at not talking to him or bringing anything up like that and now I feel like I did a HUGE backslide..I didnt get whiny or cry or anything like that but it was just a useless conversation that did no good and made me feel worse. It was along the lines of why are you turning this into the kind of situation that we cant even talk or work things out for ourselves and making it ugly, we have never been like that before and i dont get it now. I got first hand that you cant ask them a rational question and get a rational answer...and they all, everyone of them say the same thing...reading all the post here, i could answer my own questions in my head and he would say exactly what I thought he would say...it was bizzar...

suddenly H has decided that he wants S14 3 nights a week and everyother weekend, and actually picked him up last night for a few hours..he also has not flaked on this weekend (his weekend) for the first time in months...makes me wonder if someone didnt tell him that he should spend more time with son as it could effect his child support, but Im glad he is doing it all the same. S14 has been missing him.

Im getting to the point were I just want this over also...I know it will be hard when the day comes that it is final, but i want to get out of this rut...i cant do it anymore. feels like just spinning wheels..