Co-dependent? Only in a very skin-deep way. He had a huge ego to support, and I did a fair job supporting it for a very long time. He came from an Air Force Career family, moving around a lot. Mine was working class, who grew up and raised a family in the town they had grown up in . His father is bipolar. Mine was boringly normal, other than being brought up alone as the baby of 4 to later-in-life parents.
As I have grown older, I have felt that we (XH & I) should be able to speak frankly about anything. Than meant admitting my feelings of distaste for some things/places/people, as I had acknowledged and listened and attended to his for 20 years. Apparently, I was less than worshipful.
