First post, words of wisdom needed

[2thepoint]

"It is very strange to be grieving for someone that is right in front of your face. It almost seems cruel to put yourself through this kind of torture. I have found that it really is helping to get out of the house ( I am at a coffee shop right now). I am still putting on a smile and being friendly when I see my partner at the house but I sure as heck don't feel like it."


I couldn't agree more! As long as my W and I remained under the same roof, we were both constant reminders of our suffering. My W would cry daily even though she was the one who was walking away. I too was just downright bummed all the time!

Only after I moved out did some of the doom and gloom lift. Of course this was replaced by a whole new set of emotions. But, I do feel so much better emotionally now that we are apart. It makes GAL so much easier too.

I've just got to figure out how to find the best path home for both of us.

So my advice to you is to live your life like your Sunshine name implies. Be positive and upbeat. And most importantly, try to get out of the surroundings that bring you pain as much as possible. Spend the day at the library or book store. Go for a hike or a walk along the beach. If you don't yet have a job, go get one it will help you get your mind off your troubles which will in turn clear your mind.

All the best!