Wife of 6-Years is Divorcing Me pt.V

[workinghardguy]

You're pretty angry Alamo, that's fairly clear. And I guarantee that anger is spilling out and over. I'm not saying you don't have a right to be hurt or to be angry... you absolutely do, we all do. But in the end what will it get you?

Righteous with high-blood pressure, coronary disease, and stress related illness is not a winning scenario. 2TP is dead on about forgiveness. Work on finding a way to forgive her for her trespasses.

First, she left this family, this marriage. Whatever she didn't take when she moved out stays with THIS home

We're all fairly honest and straight up on this board with each other so I'm going to just say that your quote there is petty and mean. She left her toys behind so you're going to keep them? Really? What will you do with her stuff? Do you really want it around anyway?

Don't make this about winning and victory which is what that phrase above is all about. You're only going to poison yourself with the revenge. I know you're angry and hurt and want to lash out, but find a better way.

I am angry with my W. But I also have to keep working on forgiving her each day. She feels the need to do this for whatever reason. And while I don't agree with it or feel it is right, she does. And I forgive her for the pain she is causing. I'm sorry she feels the need to do this and I wish I could help her so she didn't need to. But since I can't I can only hope that she finds what it is she feels she is missing or needs.

And if that sounds weak... well, I believe it's the strongest thing in the world to forgive the person who is hurting you. It takes a strength of character and an abundance of love to go there. But I also realize I don't have a choice. I can be angry all day at her, but it doesn't affect her one bit - it affects me and the kids.