Thanks a lot for that "something the cat dragged in" picture in my mind. I had on track pants and a local tv channel t-shirt when H came home this evening. But, I did put on lipstick!!
It does sound like your H is coming back to reality a bit, compared to before. So, he thought it all out as to how a friendship with ow would go? You mean you didn't find it all perfectly logical? It's going to be back and forth between sanity and not. You know when my H saw other guys looking at me he was taken aback, too. He was with me one time when a guy my sister dated back when we were teenagers asked me where I was back then.
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Sweats do not equal something that the cat dragged in, lol! I'm talking about ill fitting maternity wear with deep set spaghetti sauce stained, run down sneakers and general laziness. I just did not care how I looked to the point that I sometimes startled myself when I looked in the mirror. I lost myself completely after the kids came.
Well, all I can say is that he would have never told me of his plans before and he definitely would not have respected my wishes. On one hand, everything looks good, but he might be welling up resentment. I have no way of knowing what he is telling her, if he is avoiding contact with her altogether or if he is truly trying to quit cold turkey.
In his mind, being honest about everything should have been enough. I think he probably feels that he is being improperly punished for his honesty. He even said that he could have made something up and that I'd be none the wiser, but that he wanted to be honest. However, he knows that I can sniff out his lies better than ever. Being more in tune to his emotions and needs has been a double edged sword for him.
Again, time will if the pressure eventually makes him crack or if it is the motivation he needs to get his butt into gear.
Coincidentally, this is not the first time a man paid attention to me blatantly in front of him. Maybe six weeks ago, we went out to a social event at a location I wouldn't get caught dead at. But, it was his idea and the event was in honor of one of his close friends. H had his arm around me, and the bouncer asked me who that guy was all over me. Thankfully, we were ushered in about five seconds later.
I'm sure you H had a similar reaction when your sister's ex made that comment. Men are always competing, even when they know that they're already won.
