Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

[BklynMom]

Just caught up on your sitch and can really relate to a lot of your feelings. It is so hard to DB when everyone around you in "real life" (not on the internet) says just kick 'em to the curb. But using a sledgehammer is not gonna get us the results we want.

25 & Abbey have some fantastic posts on your thread - I loved this by Abbey

"It's so typical with these loons. They'd rather just reach for the low hanging fruit on the affair tree, and eat for the day, than water and nurture a whole tree (the marriage). Walk away men in particular seem to assume that lust and wild sex should just always be there without any nurturing from themselves. They mistake infatuation for love. *growl* Life is work. Marriage is work. Raising kids is work. Loving another person IS WORK."

I think when the WAS is out of the house it can speed up the process of them hitting rock bottom. They cant live in a fantasy world like they can when they are at home.

Sounds like your H will be living alone and not with OW if he moves out. An empty bachelor pad is so depressing and pathetic.

I have no idea if kicking him out will work or not but I do think it will get him closer to reality. A reality that he lives rather then you telling him how it will be.

You are doing great. Lots of hope in your sitch. Fake it till you make it.