Wife of 6-Years is Divorcing Me pt.V

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Take a deep breath, Alamo! Not much else you can do at the moment.

Without being totally up on your sitch, I thought you might appreciate a little story I have toi share that may prove helpful to you...

I have a friend who's wife walked out on their marrige about 4 years ago. She moved to another state and took the child with her. She took my friend to the cleaners in the D and thought she'd be oh, so happy in her new life. Well, her new life is crap! My friend is doing well and has the wherewithall to be able to see his son several times each year (has him for the enitre summer and part of the winter).

Anyway, the two of them (friend and his X) haven't really gotten along well since the D. She is always snippy, has an attitude and feels entitled, etc. Of course my friend reacts to these provocations and so you can imagine what their interactions are like.

So one day, several yers after the D, he decides to attend DivorceCare. I thought it was a little odd since they had already been divorced for several years but who am I to judge. When they got to the week that covers Forgiveness, he had an epiphany! He realized that he had never really forgiven his W and the anger and bitterness had been eating away at him for a long time.

After that session he resigned himself to forgive her for her actions and try to work towards a better relationship with his X. One day when he was visiting his son at his W's house, he said hello and shook his W's hand.

You would have thought by her reaction that he had just handed hr a million bucks! That simple act of courtesy has undone years of animosity that had been festering between them. That simple courageous act has put them both on a path to a better relationship and they are much better parents as a result.

I know it seems crazy that a simple gesture like shaking a persons ahnd can have sch a miraculous effect, but it isn't and it did! I hope you can make use of it.

All the best!