Ok Jack, Im completely speechless when you say stuff like that.
Im not clear if you're stating that simply to other people that would come across as the "controlling type" or that you're saying that I am a control freak because I choose to do those sort of things.
I must say that my rally cry was not that for a long time. Many of the responsibilites I took on when I became a stay at home mom. I was at home all the time, and husband had to work, so let me to this! I enjoyed it and was supported by husband in all I did. We still discussed finances, planned, and worked together on things, but I did the foot work. This was ok with me.
Somewhere along the lines something went awry and I still am not sure why. I think what happened is when I started doing daycare in my home it really stressed me out and the entire household. I was under so much pressure to not only keep the homefires burning but also had a family of 3 children in my home that were very difficult. I know by the end of the day I was stressed and little time to decompress. When im stressed out, I do come across as mega controlling. So what used to be a joy, turned into a chore. What I used to be able to pace myself in, I had to cram into small time frames. Lots of pressure. Then on top of that there was death in the family, my husband injured and lost his job for 9 months, huge financial loss because of that, then jobs in opposite directions... yes it was mommy madness and then some.
So I guess to my husband he saw this as a reason to just get fed up and give up. I think all he saw was someone that was just a bitch. As to why I was a bitch, I don't think he cared why I changed he just didn't like me. Because he no longer liked me, he no longer cared enough to make an effort to connect with me.
So he chose to disconnect and play his video game 18 hours a day.
