One of the best pieces of advice I got here was regarding their relationship with the kids ...
It's not your job to break it, and it's not your job to fix it (I'm paraphrasing ... sorry Grace!)
What that means is that you don't go out of your way to make it work for him, and you don't go out of your way to make it hard for him ... just be. The kids will figure it out, in time, and they will define their relationship with their dad based on his actions/inactions. Your instinct is going to be to want to protect them from the hurt ... you can't. But you can teach them how to cope and deal with lifes disappointments. Let that be your gift to them.
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
