MLC?

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So in my counseling appointment yesterday, my counselor recommended that I not make myself scarce so that he can spend time with the kids. What happened is on Thanksgiving, I made plans to go to a friends house with the kids. I wasn't going to cook and try to play happy family. He was invited, but of course did not go (he was going golfing instead.) I told him he could text me or call when he was done and I would bring the kids to him, or he could come and pick them up. At 5, he still hadn't called, so I packed the kids up (they didn't want to go) and we went home so they could spend some time with him. He was sitting on the couch, drinking beer, watching football. He didn't interact with the kids much at all. I thought maybe it was because I was there, so I went out for a run. I was gone about an hour and when I came back, he was upstairs in his room, and the kids were sitting on the couch watching a movie.

Her point was that it is almost me trying to control him spending time with the kids. He needs to know that if his choice is to move out and be single that he will ahve to work at having a relationship with them. I have been trying to give him space to spend time with the kids, but if he is not going to, I can't force it. There are times when he seems like he is trying- this weekend he planned to take them roller skating, but they were back within a couple hours. Is this normal? How much should I encourage interaction if at all?