My W has increasing told me that she is "uncomforable" and "feels I can't breathe" in our current, separated but living under the same roof scenario. (Although she acknowledges that I am usually in another room and not around her.) This came to a head last evening when we were shopping for Christmas presents for the kids. She was distant--both physically and emotionally--the whole time. For the first time since our separation, I felt I did not want to be around her. It still hurt to see in her eyes how much she did not want to be around me but I have been working hard to GAL and am feeling really good about the steps I have taken so being around someone who is not positive/trying to address the problems underlying the situation is not fun. Later, I suggested that we physically S and live apart and create a schedule to share the kids but she did not want to talk about it; in fact, she left the house, saying she was under a lot of pressure. (When she returned, she apologized for "acting that way" but did not discuss the situation further.)
IMO, the current situation is unproductive. I still want our M to work but another feeling is creeping in: maybe it is better if is doesn't given that one of us is working to change and the other seems to be preoccupied with the past (a justification for a D, IMO). Does anyone have any suggestions about how to raise the issue of a physically S in a DB/DR way? (As you can see from the thread, we did this before but stopped for the reasons stated above.) Any advice would be welcome.
