Thanks, Adinva. I appreciate your insight on this matter and will heed your advice. I don't want it to be a hill that I die on, but I also don't want to settle for less than 50% - which she is clearly trying to get me to do. She also would have him every Friday night and Saturday morning with him - giving him to me at 9:00 AM. Can't live with that.
You know, more than anything I think it is the psychological aspect of this that pains me the most. If I step outside of myself and look at this as an observer I can't believe that I am in a postion where I am battling my W for time with my 19 month old son. If you would have told me this was going to be the case 4 months ago I would have called you a liar. I am in awe that suddenly the woman I have loved for 8 years is now an adversary in many respects. It's hard to grasp.
Question of the day for me:
Anyone have and idea how to communicate when there is little to no communication? Odd question, but I see in threads how spouses are able to establish a friendship on some level at some point. My W only wants to discuss matters pertaining to our son and the S/D - and those are brief, fact-based discussions. I don't want more distance wedged between us (though I am 100% giving her space/time as per LRT) but I fear that if we go for weeks, months without speaking as "people" - we will never really be at a place to repair (though I am a one-man tango right now). Can this stage last forever?
