Never thought I'd be here........

[adinva]

You can't "keep her from" anything. If it's a hill you're willing to die on, leave it to your L to respond to her L that <50% is unacceptable and let her come up with a new alternative.

But don't stand on principle and give the L's all that extra money if it's something you really could live with.

My L, who granted isn't a fight to the death get everything you can kinda guy, told me this: "The goal is not just to settle but to settle fast...legal fees will eat up your assets and you end up just as divorced...go for a C rather than an A+. For child custody, try to minimize drama and transitions. Orders can be modified based on changing circumstances. Custody battles ruin kids, I could give you horror stories. Don't get anal about sticking to the court order, be reasonable and compromise when needed - within limits though, you can't lurch back after consistent leniency." Just a few thoughts from another party, may or may not be helpful, and may or may not be what you believe, just advice from someone who also served 25 years as a guardian ad litem.

Good job staying businesslike about this. Letting yourself get worked up emotionally will not help you.