About the Christmas gifts... because her H still isn't aware that my H is around...he supposes that it's not a good idea to rock that boat... yet. So I affirmed with: well next year might be different, but this year, because she hasn't told him yet not somewhere I'd go yet. My opinion is: That puts a potential huge fight in the path of these kids Christmas. (I have a big huge problem with ingraining in their heads a huge blow out by their parents... esp at Christmas.)
His further comment about "next year" is that he is going to see a lawyer still. He asks my opinion again... and then he comes out with this: Do I let this get nasty? I ask... how? Well, give her an ultimatum... she tells her H by such and such a date, or I let the courts deal with it. I said, I don't know. There are pluses and minuses to that kind of threat. You want more access to your daughter, BUT... you threaten lawyers, she'll pitch one of her tantrums. He said... she's MY daughter.
The parasite has this down pretty well. Her H goes and stays with the children, so she can go do whatever she wants. (He works shifts). THEN she can go hang out with MY H. Special eh? When I'm out of the way - she'll figure having both of them to pull around by the nose. Thus, why I suspect she's not going to be too eager to tell her H about this new development. He's not likely to be as cooperative about being a "baby sitter" while she's out sleazing around with another man. Hmmm.
H and I had a very emotional convo last night. He still contends he's in love with her, but that she's not interested in him. Yeah... right. She's interested in his bank account. She's already talked him into buying concert tickets for her 13 yr old daughter.
More later.
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
