"Sharks and fish can be friends" from Finding Nemo

[AntoniaB]

Seeking I get what you mean; I feel like I want to date but don't want anything concrete/serious. But yet I'm not someone who wants casual sex either and I guess I'm afraid that most men want that. The guy I met a few weeks ago in the rest. I go to who was super nice but just coming off this breakdown, recently lost his job, divorced, etc., well I've run into him a few times and he is very respectful and kind to me, nice to talk to. Then I started to be friends with the one bartender who works there, who told me that this same guy went up to their busboy and asked him "where do all the hot honeys go around this town cause I want to hook up." To me, he was like "Oh, I'm not the kind of guy who sleeps around." Now I'm freaked out to be around him. Yuck.

Met another guy in the same rest. last night, and when he left I said to my girlfriend, what's that guy's story, he had a wedding band on but he bought us drinks. She said "Him? He's married with 4 kids. We call him "the philanderer."

I think I like this idea of dating that doesn't exist.

I'll tell you, the moment I felt most comfortable in the past week, was when I was sitting with my new friend and her girlfriend and heard that they are both 30 and single and have been for awhile. One said, "we already decided we're going to be crazy cat ladies together, so you can be one with us if you want."

Instantly I felt happy. Maybe we all just need lots of local, single friends to hang with to feel alright in this limbo time where we miss the relationship but can't bring ourselves to find one.