So, um, Antonia. Now you do "get it" that it's not you right?
He does the work of God? Is he a priest or an axe murderer? Seriously. What is it he does again?
He has some issues Antonia. You cannot fix them and you know that. This seems to reinforce that.
And for my money, the anger at the OW? Not really warranted and at some point in the not too distant future you will need to see that she is not to blame and likely you will want to thank the "her" that he ran to for taking him and helping him to survive. I know that sounds weird. But he set you free. Albeit against your wishes, but free just the same. Free from the spew. Free from his lunacy.
I have a friend of mine that went through divorce 20+ years ago. Her ex told her he was the second coming at one point.
She has been a great friend and mentor for me. She has 3 kids and was married for 20+ at the time.
Some people are nuts. Some people are cowards. Some people will sacrifice you for themselves and we call that person weak. Broken.
But he has to travel his path on his own. He chose to do what he did. If it wasn't the current OW, it would have been a different one. I've seen it first hand.
I choose too. I choose to let go and remember that this is a person I once loved deeply. I choose to hope my ex does very well and doesn't look back because I choose to believe that is what she needs in her life. I choose to believe that my God has everything in control and things will be as they are supposed to be. But I don't put blame on the OM. I have a few times, and would still take my anger out on him (physically) if that was an opportunity I ran across. But I'd feel bad later
My $0.04 anyway (inflation..)
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
