How do you maneuver your way through a custody disagreement and remain "friendly"? It got tense today, heard from her lawyer with her proposal that would basically give me about four or five fewer days each month. This is opposed to mine that divides the time in half.
Her initial rejection of my proposal was that it had too many exchanges in one week. Then I built a table in Excel that showed that her proposal and mine had the EXACT same number of exchanges. Once that objection was overcome, she moved on to "that would be six nights away and I absolutely will not do that!". So I brought to her attention that it was actually FIVE nights away and that BOTH of us had that so it was perfectly equal. She never responded. I feel like she will oppose my proposal no matter what. The sad part is, now this is all flowing through lawyers so it is costing what? $400 and hour on each side to settle on something that is just math?
This D was her decision, I fought it and continue to do so quietly through DBing. So whether I like it or not, I am having a MINIMUM of 50% of my time stripped away from me against my will if she insists on seeing this thing through to the end. I am not giving up more than that.
It seems she does not want to be fair or rational. I have not been rude, angry or insulting during this skirmish. I have just stuck to facts and have learned to not express my emotions in e-mail or text, and we certainly are not on the phone with each other.
How do i keep her from getting even angrier at me without backing down on this issue?
