Yeah, well that's why I think we're at a stalemate. Because I did not give him 'permission' to have a friendship with her, I know that it may very well go undercover. Actually, I'm sure that it will. But, the ow's response is going to be very telling. So far, he's jumped every time she's said how high, and he ended up canceling something at the last minute that was important to her. I try not to think about her or her intentions because the real problem is with him. All I know is that she is clearly using him to do her grunt work, and I am clearly an obstacle. Hoping that she will just find a more willing victim, but that's not likely.
From what I understand, he missed a call from her yesterday and went to the store around the corner so that he could call her back. She told him that she wanted him to do this favor, then he told her that he just wanted to be her friend. When he came home, he told me all this, stating that he didn't like making up excuses and lies. He said a lot of things yesterday that sounded genuine, but I'm pretty detached at this point.
Really, its too early to tell what he's going to do. He is definitely thinking because my responses have been completely out of the norm. All I know is that we need counseling, stat. He has his head on so much more straight when he talks to someone that has professional experience and has no incentive to tell him to take the easy way out.
As for our family, well, yeah. Its very difficult at times, and it has made me very resentful towards my mother. Her life wasn't exactly a bed of roses and after divorcing my father, he latest relationship makes mine look like the Brady Bunch.
The layoff will last at least 2 or 3 months. That's why I'm glad that I have been applying to jobs like crazy for the past few weeks and picking up extra work here and there. I know H is a good provider, so its going to be hard but not impossible. I'm hoping that I can pick up some of the extra slack as well.
Hope you enjoy dinner! Might ask for the chocolate cake recipe near Christmas.
Originally Posted By: verycrazy
Okay, so he told ow, he didn't want to see her anymore, then he tells you he wants to be her friend? Sounds like a bunch of twaddle and shite to me. And then ow just, what? ignores him and tells him she wants him to do some work around her house? I am sure it must make you crazy to hear all this stuff. You said you were confused right now? I think HE is even more confused. I hope he is getting something out of his books that he hasn't gotten from C. He is acting like he wants to try, and he did go lay down, instead of going to ow's. I wonder if ow burned up his phone while he was sleeping. He still don't get a pat on the head yet.
THAT'S why I didn't tell my family. I couldn't have stood the looks and comments, plus how they might treat him later. There's always someone in the family who is like the town crier! H's family didn't know. either.
How long will your H be off work for? That will be hard on you both.
Yeah, I'll be glad to exchange recipes anytime. Gotta go fix dinner now. vc
