That is a fair question PEI/T. I have wondered that myself. What

really defines the healing time? I have been in this wonderful

circus for well over 2 years and I look back and do not regret

not dating, or starting any new kind of relationship even after

the divorce. I can armchair quarterback this and say that I

would not have been ready.

Am I stuck? Maybe but I still am in no hurry to start something

with anybody because it would not be fair to the new person and

I am not real keen on just doing the friends with benefits

thing. Heck, I couldn't just be a friend to the opposite sex

without wondering what motives the other was thinking.

Not trying to hijack this thread but it seems many of us are

in the same boat with relatively same time lines. Since I know

some of your relatively recent history of OP's in your life,

would it be too personal to share what you have learned?

P.S. PEI, This is one of those very rare occasions on which

I have had a couple (that means 2 not 6) of beers before

posting, so if I am out of line, then let me know.


WS