Tested you have to do what feels right to you when it comes to giving her a gift from your D, When my H first left I gave him a Christmas gift from our son along with cards, I also gave him gifts from our grandchildren, a few months after I gave them to him he came to our house to pick up our son he opened the trunk of his car to put something in it, And there sat the gifts that were given to him not even opened..when I saw it I said nothing to him But that was the last time he received anything from my son for a few years, I did not bother buying anything for him for his birthday or any other holiday, Until I saw him move along in his crisis.. of course 7 years later things are different and Him and I now give each other gifts on Birthday's and Holidays... At that time my H was to just starting out with his crisis and he had no interest in anything to do with me or his children or his old life.. he was on a new adventure and wanted no reminders of us, that is why I believe he did not open them,,,,
