weve been M for 15yrs and T for 16. Im 40 W is 39 a S13 and D7.weve had a pretty good marriage in my and her aswell as pretty much all our friends opinions. we had been arguing lateley over her feeling too lonely and bored and that she felt i didnt love her anymore. my job requires me to be out of town 3 sometimes 4 day a week. she has always professed her undying love for me and how she would always be there but she was always worried that i would cheat or leave her. i have not. she has expressed to to me in the past how she felt like everyone we know was in a bad marriage. the spouses werent in love or someone was gonna cheat. she also feels her granny isnt happy in her marraige of 62 years. so on 08/11 she drops the bomb she wants to split that shes not happy and her needs arent being met. im gone too much and when im home i have too may hobbies and shes to far down on the list.now i make pretty good money and she never had to work and the kids dont need her as much now and she tells mw shes bored. sex life was always great.i tell her if shes not happy with me go find happy. i make a stand. she says lets go on a trip together. i say you need to be happy with me right here. i cant takke you on a trip whenever your bored. she says lets have another baby and i say your crazy. your leaving me but a baby will make you stay. she said if you retired in 5 yrs id stay but you have at least 20 and icant do it. i say fine go.thinking she needs a taste of th real world, but i do love her.she gets depressed crying not sleeping not eating, going out drinking.asking me why im not fighting for her? i said fight what? she says your just gonna let me go?i say your leaving me. i have 2 guys i hang out with a married guy and a single guy. so they are being my shoulder during this ordeal and i figure ill be spending alot of time with single guy. almost 2 months go by and then i get slammed with the shock of my life. i find out the W and the single guy are seeing each other now behind my back. it flipped my lid.now me and the wife agreed that we were no longer a couple about a month prior and could see other people so she wasnt really cheating on me. now the single guy totally doesnt seem her type. hes cheated on every girlfriend hes had since weve known him. and my wife has serious trust issues. now this has been goin on since mid octber and they are spending all there time tgether. all our friends want nothing to do with them. ive obviosly moved out. my W getting new boobs.im the one depressed now ive lost my girl who i thought was being needy and would come around. ive lost my friend because he is betraying our friendship. i tryed to get her to come back but she says its too late. you let me go. now im just starting the no contact, getting in shape and trying to live a life without. but it kills me i know shes over there every night i have our kids. any input plz.
