i don't think i can do anything other than that, really. she's convinced herself of a few things which aren't really how things are between us. she's been using a great deal of absolutist language "always" "never" "everyone" and things like that and then she's confiding in me and expressing herself in a reasonable manner that can be constructive for us.
when we had our first "this is the end" issue it was me going to leave her unless she did certain things which i explained. in my case, she won't explain it and thinks i should know. i was willing to tell her what it would take to restore my trust and yet she is unwilling to do the same. *sigh*
it's like a whirling, twisting open ended thrill ride without a seat belt. i suppose that, on the other side of everything, i'll be a healthier person, better parent and better partner than i have been previously. it's hard to keep looking at the future when you're hanging your head in shame and embarrassment though.
