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Thanks lostforwords,
I definitely need to continue to detach and just hope for the best. Also, interesting to hear your wife's perspective on the sex...I am hoping OW starts to feel that way.

H has also let himself slide a bit in terms of eating healthy/exercising. Might be a bad sign for me if he's getting more comfortable with her, but I'm hoping it's a sign the hormones are settling down a bit. He was really amped up when the A first started.

At first, my IC told me to compete with OW (she thought my H might see the light quickly)..but we moved to LRT pretty fast once that didn't work and she could see H was pretty entrenched. (By competing, she really mostly meant to GAL and dress well...which I am still doing...but it was also the mindset...which I've now dropped)

Yes, selfish is the key word. What's also somewhat comforting to me in that if he was truly in a genuine, loving, mature relationship...I don't believe he'd be acting how he is acting. He'd end our marriage, be extra supportive of the kids, work with me on co-parenting...all while trusting OW would be waiting for him to be free to love her.

I don't really buy into MLC for my H--I think his actions are more driven by our marital issues and the A.