That is what you need to let go. It doesn't matter where he is emotionally. All that matters is what you are doing for you and your children today, tomorrow, and a year from now.
If your H is out in la la land, that is his issue to deal with. You must find a way to disregard what he might be feeling, planning or doing. None of that can be your concern anymore.
Yes, easier said than done. Trust me, been there done that. But you have to try. As long as you are holding on to the hurt he has caused and the uncertainty of the situation you will not be able to move forward.
Have you read the section in the book about stop signs? Every time a thought comes into your head where you try to second guess what your H is feeling, close your eyes and imagine a huge red stop sign.
It really does work.......with practice.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
