Hi Say, I just got caught up on your situation. I think you are doing a good job of making changes, and for the right reasons. You are working on becoming your best possible self. If you are making the changes for you, it will make it more likely the changes will stick. If they don't benefit you in your relationship with your W, it's likely they will benefit you in a future relationship.
It seems like you are getting good advice here, too. Before making some of those financial decisions, it may be best to at least burn a free consultation session with a L, just to be sure everything is copesthetic with what your W is asking you to do. Like the others said, don't tell your W about it, you're only going to do research and gather information.
