Thank you all for your suggestions! They are very helpful.
I misspoke. It has been 3 months since separation and over 1.5 yrs. since the 1st bomb. The burners really got going about 3 months ago and don't seem to let up.
Anyway, I plan to get W a card from me with just a plain Happy B day in it. As for the D's gift, I was going to get it on her behalf, not for my own. I realize this is a teaching moment, but I was afraid that it might be seen as using D to give W a gift and possibly having it blow back at me with the D witnessing it. (W is that unstable right now).
I have decided to do the homade gift idea anyway. I respect that W is the mother of my child and although I do not really like her right now and abhor her behavior, I still need to teach my child to show respect for her and others in her life.
JB- I love your Yoda like teachings!
Mach and Witz- thanks for the great ideas!
M:35 W:33 M: 5 yrs. Daughter: 2 yr .7/11/10 D Final: 8/7/12
