Yes it is good to build all these things, but why would she drop OM if she could have both these things AND OM.
Especially since Jake is projecting that he won't leave no matter what she does.
GB, because if she's half the mother and wife she once was, I should think that she will find the inner motivation. Most married women with children, don't want to have long term A's and be moms and wives...I don't know any. She wants resolution of this, not prolonging. At least imo.
Statistically men are more likely to carry on long term affairs and want the best of both worlds, etc. Women veer toward wanting resolution of the issue, one way or the other. I'm hoping Jake gets her to slow down and see all the UPSIDES of being with Him and the kids and not the ruination of a family, the upheaval and pain.
GB, are you suggesting Jake should NOT work on himself b/c then his wife will have a kind loving h AND an OM and that's cake eating?
seems to me if Jake is a jerk, she'll just choose OM and leave...how's that better?
Not to mention that Jake doesn't want to be a jerk...& all HE can control is him.
Jake, is there some other job your w can get that is more condusive to your marriage?
Her Working late at night with single people, and seeing you so little, isn't great. She must have felt lonely a lot even at home. She's cared for the disabled d all on her own, with no companion....
You really must have "couple" time. And family time all together.
That would be an improvement that all could enjoy and benefit from.
Think your w would agree to that or pursue school again? You said she had talent.
I have a hard time believing her career goals are satisfied waiting tables, (which I did in law school. I thought it was way more demanding than most people realize. It motivated me to finish law school, that's for sure.)
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
