Too late?

[Nblost]

What is insane is that every time I think things can't get worse...they do. I guess I just mean that I prepare myself for the fact that he'll likely be moving out and we'll need to actually deal with the ramifications of this on our kids, families, money, etc. Right now, it's horrible...but, if I really wanted to be in denial, I could pretend he is purely traveling for business and I could almost think things were fine. Almost everyone in our lives sees us as a married, happy family.

H has been telling me the thing he likes about OW is that they have more "intimate" conversations than we've ever had. As a woman, this has been chewing me up because intimate implies to me that they are sharing their deepest secrets and hopes for the future. However, I was reading some stuff last night about communication and I realized that I think my H may mean "sexual" when he says intimate. That would match the text msgs I saw on his phone and the fact that these intimate conversations started happening right away in the A. He's also been frustrated with me in the past because I define intimacy as broader and more emotional than he does.

He said in our one MC session (prior to me knowing about the A) that the most critical thing for him in a marriage is that every encounter every day be leading towards sex. When our MC pushed back on that a bit (hard to have every interaction laced with sexiness when you have three kids, two full-time jobs, etc)...H retracted. But, I think that was a clue to what he was feeling with OW.

I can believe that is hard for a SS husband to give up...

Optimistically though, I don't think the crazy sex can last forever (H has always believed it can)...I have a feeling it wouldn't take much for my H to feel a letdown with her. But, I don't know and maybe with an A...it's easier to keep that kind of stuff alive. I would hope that at some point, he starts coming across as too pushy about sex...I know he did with me. The bad news is, he's probably told OW that I was LD (she may be venting the same stuff about her ex) so she may know that's her key area to shine.

Anyway, back to my detaching with a positive attitude!