Husband Left...Part 2

[workinghardguy]

Hi Hope... give your H some time... he was angry and frustrated this morning, I'd see if he brings it up again. Men tend to deal with high-stress like that differently than women. But for now I'd stick to the plan... he will figure it out.

As far as validating and apologizing... they aren't the same thing. Validating is simply letting the other person know that you understand where they are, but you don't have to agree with them. I don't agree with much of W's worldview, but I understand that is how she feels. So when she says that she's fearful I will "screw her over" in the divorce I don't agree or disagree, I simply state that I understand that she feels that way and can see why. And I can see why. It's not about arguing right or wrong, it's just trying to see it through their eyes.