That is indeed difficult. WRT your daughter, I would just tell him that you plan to keep the custody situation in place. You feel it's fair, and it's best for your daughter. That said, if H *truly* can't handle her and she is suffering as a result, then I think you need to change things up -- but you should decide that, not H.
Originally Posted By: Hopeful321
So, how can I tell him in a nice way that I did not cause this situation, he did.
Don't say that at all, that is not DB. Just don't change the custody arrangement.
Originally Posted By: Hopeful321
Also, I am sick and tired of validating his feelings.
Change your approach. If he says "I got stuck at a red light and it made me so mad!". You can validate that by saying "I can see what that makes you mad, you're right to feel that way!" -- OR -- you can say "I'm sorry you're angry".
In the second case, you're not validating his reason for being angry. You might feel that's a stupid reason to be angry, but you're still being civil and supportive. Make sense?
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