Do I stay or do I go?

[Abbey]

I'm sure he means it.. I mean I could feel and see on him as soon as I moved he changed, he kept calling, wanting to come over.. Yesterday he called me to ask if I thought about what he said. Still I said there is nothing to think about as he's in a serious relationship. (lol)

Good for you. *applause*

What it looks to me now is that he would try with me to work on things while ow is still there. Let's say I agree.. What does he say to her?

It amazes me how many men (or WAS) think that working on a marriage can happen WITH another person stuck in the middle. Just shows how far alien abducted they are. *shakes head*

My thoughts: You might want to say, look, lets see if we can work on our friendship first. See if he'll start confiding in you. It's not for the weak at heart... but if you can do the friend route, and keep him at bay... but not completely alienate him. I'd say it's something to try.

He'll continue to profess his devotion. You can then tell him he still has a sitch to work through with the OW. Go read "Not Just Friends" again. See what they get out of that relationship and what you can utilize to draw him closer. It'll feel like arrows through your heart at times... and you'll want to quit often... but it's still worth a try.