Wow, that's too much for most any couple to bear without it taking a toll on the R.

I don't ask this to be offensive, but are both of you women?

Being in a new location and depending upon her to help financially while you attend school could cause you to definitely experience some panic feelings, just in that one area. Has you detected any resentment from her about this?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!