Nothing has been said about separating items legally, though we did follow community property guidelines so for the most part what she has is what she has.
I wish I could go back to yesterday and reword that text. In an effort to not come off as a jerk i came across as too wishy-washy. I now see why in so many threads people lament that this DB process is hard. Luckily, this board is a great sounding post. I am glad that I found it. Live and learn, I suppose. I am sure i will get better at it as time goes on. (experiment and measure results!)
I won't breath a word to her about Saturday. Oddly enough, I did invite our neighbors and I know she still talks to the wife. So she'll probably hear about it anyway.
I asked her yesterday if she would prefer limiting our discussions to our son and pending separation/D and she responded simply, "for now". So it looks as if any attempts to try to be her friend are out the window. Part of me fears that the lack of communication and contact will only drive a larger wedge between us. Notwithstanding, I am not going to over-communicate. Seems like she is either still angry or just trying to put me out of her mind right now. It shouldn't worry me, but it does to some extent.
As you noted before, she probably is genuinely happy for now, being on her own and just wants to keep it that way. I just wonder how long that phase lasts.
