"...she has noticed changes, but she wants to move out mainly because she isn’t sure that the changes will last,"

Hey this is good! "...she has noticed changes.." Myself, and a number of others didn't even get this from their WAS's, and you did this from 8000 miles away?! Sweet.

This pretty much answers it, "she isn’t sure that the changes will last..." Well then, you make 'em last. You don't need to talk about them with her much, maybe not at all for that matter (unless she brings it up. At that you don't need to go into detail about this.)

Trying to convince her of these changes will not work, that I can guarantee. She needs to see them for herself. Re invigorate what she saw in you to make her fall in love with you before. At that, when she does comment on seeing your changes, DO NOT let her see you get excited she noticed. Do that elsewhere. Let her get curious. Keep her guessing a bit even. Thank her, 'much appreciate the compliment. It was just something I needed to do'

Note: If she feels you are doing these changes 'just' to get her back and not for yourself, I can pretty much guarantee it will set things back.

"She said that it is too late for MC… & that we should have gone to MC a few years ago...she says that she loves me but won’t try to save the marriage & repeats that she love me/ its too late."

Heard this before. Seen it too. If the changes are kept consistent and are pretty much what W is looking for over time you will hear different as opposed to the above. Button down the hatches though, you're in this for a while. Probably up to a year or 2 even before things can start to clear up. Resist looking for the 'quick fix.' Ain't there. It will take a while for W to sort through this.

" She wants to move & get a D ... "

I know you must be seething inside on this but again, don't try to convince her otherwise. I you do it will just feed the negative energy around this and most likely provoke it further. See my above post if you need to know what to say when she brings the big bad 'D' up again. Adjust if you see fit,

Coyote

I haven't posted much in the last seven years. I've been a lurker. Just lookin' to put back all the good help I've gotten...