First post, words of wisdom needed

[techguy]

First thing that happened when I suddenly found my relationship in trouble... you desperately want to fix the "love". You suddenly start trying to fix it and you just end up smothering them.

My best advice it to totally forget about "fixing" anything with your partner. Just make yourself a better person and <always> portray a happy and successful image. But you can't just "fake it" (though you do sometimes have to "fake it until you make it"). They will sense the fakery and it is a turn off. To be succesfull you really have to change yourself for real.

I know how hard it seems to do this. You are in a total panic because you might lose your partner. But The Buddhists say that unhappiness only comes because we desire. Lose the desire and the fear\unhappiness goes away.

So, as odd as it seems, the best way you can save your relationship is to totally forget about it for now. Just focus on yourself.