Grace, Love, Compassion, and Faith - EVEN BETTER

[BklynMom]

Hey Val - This is my first time commenting on your thread even though I have followed your story for some time. Your journalings were always so on point I didnt think I could offer you too much advice.

You are amazing. You have changed dramaticly over the past few months and I totally try to emulate your attitude. Especially doing this for me and not for my WAS.

I spoke with a DB coach last next regarding a letter I was writing to my H and she helped tremendously. I would highly recommend calling. I personally found your letter to brusque. I think you have proven that you are detached from your W. Your dont text her pleasantries like Happy Thanksgiving. You are not in regular contact. I think you can make this necessary contact more friendly. Why do you need to reiterate that you will not pay for anything, has she told you you need to pay? did she indicate that she didnt hear you when you said it the 1st time?

Besides helping me with my letter my DB coach really emphasized a realistic time line. Although it feels like its already been forever this process may take 1-2yrs. If your W is starting The Program herself this will bring about more changes. You need to see how the program changes her. Unfortunately it takes time, but the good thing is time is on our side.

Hang in there. You are an inspiration:)